Coping With Stress – Tips

Coping With Stress – Tips

Let’s be honest – no one in the world is a stress-free person. There’s always something that turns us into a little ball of anxiety and stress. Whether it is your job, family or just life in general, I know it is not easy to cope with it. I’ve been a stress person since I started secondary school. All the exams, pop quizzes, people not being nice and teachers calling you to the board to solve a problem – all of this was just way too much for me. I never was the brightest person in the world and at school there were topics that I didn’t like or didn’t entirely understood. My Achilles heel was Maths. I used to get so stressed to walk into the maths classroom that my whole body was just shaking.

My teacher used to call me to the board at least three times during lesson, even though she knew I didn’t understand – and that’s what stressed me out the most. I would just stand there, not knowing how to start. I could feel the eyes of people in the classroom on my back. No fun.

I have grown to accept that some things aren’t the way we want them to be. There will always be something that stresses us out, makes us uncomfortable and panicky. I know that I still have some things that make me unbearably stressed out to the point I don’t want to handle them. But there are things we can do to help us to cope with stressful situations.

Connect with people

Try to talk to other people and vent about problems. Make sure the person you’re talking to is a trusted person that understand you as a human being and know that your stress is no joke (believe me, there are people who don’t understand why we stress about various things). It is a good thing to just lay some of your problems and thoughts onto another person. It can clear your head and you get support. It is my number one when it comes to managing my stress. Having someone who will listen and take a part of the burden off of me, maybe even give me an advice.

Take some “me” time seriously

I know some of you probably have kids or pets that need attention almost 24/7 but “me” time is needed for all of us. Try to get one or two days where you can relax and focus on yourself. Give yourself a spa day, paint nails, drink some wine – anything that will help you to cut the stress off, even if it is just a little bit. I personally like to bullet journal or doodle (even if I am not the best at it). It gives me a little time to focus on something else than my worries. “Me” time is seriously neglected sometimes and that’s why we need to start taking it seriously and make time for ourselves.

Go out with your friends

This is the complete opposite of “me” time as some people prefer to surround themselves with people to get a little bit more comfortable and put the stress behind. Try to make plans to keep yourself busy and stop thinking about the problems for awhile. I find it hard to make plans every week of the month with my friends as we all have our jobs and personal lives but we try to meet up at least once a month. This is a good tip for people who have a bigger group of friends. Go out, have some fun. Forget about things that stress you out for time being. Get some happy juice injected into you!

Acknowledge what makes you stressed out

This is an important thing to do. At the beginning of the post I talked about me during Maths classes and how much it stressed me out to be called out to the board. Well, after some time I knew it was inevitable thing that is going to happen every day so I made sure I knew how to prepare myself for it. Acknowledging and getting to know things that stress you out is as important as breathing. By realising what stresses us out the most and letting that information inside is going to help you to manage the stress. Try to sit down, make a list of things that makes you nervous and anxious. Read them. Get to know them. And after some time you will see that you will avoid most of things on your list, some of them you will be prepared for and you’ll know how to manage it.

Breathing exercises

Some of you probably don’t know but breathing exercises can help you calm and make you stay focused on what’s important. Try to be mindful about it. Make get an app or simply Google some breathing exercises. Sit down and try. You never know, maybe it is something that will help you the most? I personally use the app called Senseful – it is a meditation and relaxation app that helps me when I get too over my head with everything. I use it at least three times a week! It’s a free app, has a lot to offer – meditation, breathing exercises and even a little quick game called “meditation game” where you are a little orb of light and you have to follow the instructions on the screen.

What makes you stressed out the most? How do you cope with stress?

How To Fight The Stress Away

How To Fight The Stress Away

We are living in the times where stressing about things is an everyday thing for most of us. We stress about children and how we are raising them, we stress about work, we stress about making our deadlines and getting things done on time. We never have time for others, especially loved ones, straight away and always have to squeeze them in our tight schedule so we can enjoy their company for a while – and even then we can’t stop thinking about all the tasks that we haven’t done yet. Sounds like you?

No worries, I know so many people like that. It’s hard for us to find time because our jobs don’t give us flexibility. Some may work in the company they hate, some might hate only their boss because they always have to stay longer hours at work even though they don’t want to. Lots of people nowadays make money on Instagram or by blogging about things which makes their living quite pressurised as they have to create content that is likeable and loved by many. And that is stressful enough.

I have gathered some tips on how to fight the stress away and feel better about the things we do.

Your Sleeping Schedule

I think this is the most important thing on my entire list – trying to get your between 7-9 hours of sleep. When we don’t sleep enough or don’t sleep well, we tend to be more cranky and easily irritated the next morning. For example, I didn’t sleep well last night and I got up in a mood where everything that my partner did was annoying and hard to accept. I was angry at him because of that but I knew that it was because I wasn’t rested enough. We become this little balls of stress and nothing seem to go right. I have so much trouble with sleeping so I know how it feels – everything around you seems to be too much. Your brain doesn’t retain information as well and you just can’t function properly. That’s why it is important to get a good sleep – to feel better and do better.

Meditation

This is something I just got into this year but it’s been helping me a lot with calming my nerves and making my day better. I like to do it every morning and every evening. It has a lot of benefits but the biggest one is that it is reducing stress and anxiety so, so well. During meditation, you focus on you – your breath, your thoughts, your body. You are acknowledging the things that make you worried and constantly nervous. It takes you to the state of relaxation and deep, tranquil mind, helping you to let go of thoughts that may cause you stress. Doing it regularly, and it’s been proven, can end up in emotional and physical well-being which, to me, sounds perfect.

Cut the socials

It is an essential thing. Social media can be cruel, creating a bad environment for your thoughts. Nowadays people can post anything they like online and no one can restrict it. It’s a free country, after all. But what comes with it is the negativity and pain. We all went on Facebook once in our lives and the first post out there was about a war, discrimination or other negative things that are happening right now in the world. It makes me so stressed just seeing the post, not mentioning when I go to the comments section. My advice is to cut the social media for a while – give yourself an hour or two in a day where your phone is on silent, your TV is turned off and nobody can interrupt you, I went an extra mile in it and unfollowed every account on my Facebook and other social media that was making me stressed and anxious.

Journaling

I never thought I would say that but journaling helped me throughout the most sad and stressful times in my life. I love doing it because no one is ever going to see what I have put inside. I can rant and I can write whatever I want in there. I can hate on people (especially that one person that always gets on my nerves at work) and she will never know! Pouring your heart out on the paper can help you understand your feelings better. You can also find writing or drawing very de-stressing, like me. The whole point of the journal is that we can get rid of negative emotions, calm down and let the stress stay within the words on the paper.

Read a Book

I know that some of you probably don’t have much time to sit down and read as you may have families to take care of or you are working long hours and just don’t fancy it after a long day. Personally, when I stress about something I like to sit down with a book in my hand and read at least two pages of it. It shifts my focus from stress to what’s the book about and helps me to fight it. According to research, 6 minutes of reading can reduce as much as two thirds of the stress level. How amazing is that?

Walks

I say it a lot and I will say it again – walks are important part of the de-stressing. Just a simple stroll in the park or in the woods can make you feel calmer. Getting a little bit of exercise is a great stress reliever. When moving your body releases endorphins – the happy hormone – and makes you feel a bit better. Just a 30-minute walk can change your mood and you will be able to return to your tasks with a fresh mind!

The things above might not works for all of you. It’s the list of things that work for me and I wanted to share it with you to give you some ideas. You might have your own ways to de-stress. Whatever is right for you, lovely! Let me know in the comments – what you like to do to fight the stress away?