Disney Princesses and Body Image

Disney Princesses and Body Image

If I’m being honest, when I was younger, I dreamt about meeting Walt Disney so he can tell me all about his movies. I wanted to know if it’s true that all movies were connected in some weird way or is it just a coincidence. Right now, I have lots of doubts if Disney had any idea how he influenced young children by disrupting body image in his movies is.

Nowadays we speak about body positivity and body image a lot, especially on social media. Last night I was scrolling through my Instagram feed and I found this photo of Disney princesses and how would they look like if they were real people. Let me tell you now – it wasn’t pretty. Of course, the images were photo-shopped as no one really could look like that and if they do it’s probably due to tons of surgeries and make up.

“Most valuable asset is beauty”

I think the most ridiculous thing is that young children are taught that beauty is everything and you have to be pretty to achieve anything – like Cinderella needed to completely transform her hair and put a make up on to be pretty and enticing. We see this everywhere. Every princess has an expensive dress and make up on. It’s said that when they’re in their casual clothes they are not as beautiful when in glamour.

There’s majority of princesses that look like they’ve been wearing a corset from the day they were born and they have been starving themselves ever since. They all have a waist size zero, big booties and heads. It looks unnatural. They are so out of proportion that it makes me think if it was a planned action or maybe they just didn’t care as long as they looked pretty. Also, most princesses have long slim necks (like there’s only one type of acceptable neck shape?!?!) and narrow wrists. They look like dolls and for me, when it comes to beauty, there’s not only one type of it – there are shapes and curves that are lovable and beautiful too.

For decades, we have been fed with lies about how a perfect body should look like. They say you have to have hourglass body, large breast, fair complexion and pretty, big eyes to look fabulous and beautiful. It also mention something about thick, long eyelashes and perfect teeth. Disney has been devaluing bigger-sized women for years and nobody took action to change it. Why can’t we add some curves and some actual fat? I think to would look not only more realistic but prettier too.

Summary

In my honest opinion Walt Disney made a great movies but I hate how he made every princess look like a unrealistic goddess. I think Disney movies are creating misleading body image for your girls and they’re messing with their heads, making them think that they won’t be beautiful until they will look like one of the princesses. Walt Disney, being long gone right now, can’t change his decisions but it makes me upset that no one thought about re-making those movies and adding some human shapes and sizes into it.

Being a fan of Moana and Merida I can tell that maybe they are ones of the first princesses that are actually more human like than others. They are, of course, out of proportion too but I think their body shapes are a little bit better than any other princess. If you look closely, they have some curves and some fat so they’re not as thin as a piece of paper. Also, both of them have lovely, curly hair and they’re embracing it proudly. I think they’re the closest thing to a human at this moment.

Creating self-love routine

Creating self-love routine

Self-love isn’t easy. We all sometimes have those days where every time we look at ourselves in the mirror we see nothing but our flaws. Creating a self-love routine can help you to see yourself in a different light.

What’s self-love, you may ask. Well, it’s an ability to appreciate your own worth. It’s focusing on your happiness and well-being. It’s the love for yourself and pride in being the way you are. It’s your mental health and awareness of thoughts you’re thinking. It’s self-respect that every person should have to their bodies.

Creating self-love can take days, months or even years but it doesn’t matter as long as you try. It took me a long time to actually mean some of the things I said to my fat reflection. I want to share with you some tips on how to start self-love routine, how to keep track of how you are feeling about yourself and make yourself happier, accepting person.

Tell yourself something nice every day.

”You look beautiful”. ”I like your t-shirt”. ”Your butt looks great”. ”You are worthy”. Those are only some of the phrases I tell myself every day. You can use anything positive that comes to your mind. As human beings, we’re afraid of saying things like that out loud because some people may think we’re narcissistic. Maybe I am. It’s alright to sometimes so try to find something positive about yourself every day until those little pieces will come together and you’ll see yourself as a beautiful person you truly are.

Touch your body with love

I know so many people that hate their bodies so much they sometimes hit it with anger, leaving bruises. It’s mostly stomach or thighs. It’s terrifying to think about how much negative thoughts they have in their mind. I can already tell you – it’s not the way to make it better. And it never will be. Instead, try to caress your body slowly, with love. Look at it, smile to it. Bond with it. Realize that your body is only yours and you have to love it first.

Smile to yourself in the mirror

I used to look at myself, at my reflection and point out everything that’s wrong with me. Every flaw that my body has. And I never smiled. It made me depressed because my thighs weren’t small and my belly was floppy and ugly. Right now, standing in front of the mirror and staring at my reflection I smile. Every time. I smile to my thighs, thanking them for being big and thick. I smile to my belly to let it know that I love it and there’s nothing wrong with it. Try to do the same. Be thoughtful of how your body looks like. Be happy that your body is the way that no one else’s body is.

Create skincare/self-care routine

Usually, when I wake up I drink a glass of water, dress up and proceed with my skincare routine. I wash my face, put oils and eye cream on and then put some moisturizer on. Somehow that simple act makes me more confident. It makes me feel fresh and fearless. If you don’t have the time for skincare routine in the morning, don’t worry – you can do it in the evening. Instead of skincare routine when you wake up, you could try some 5-minute meditation or read a small part of a book. Just a something to remind you that it’s a new day and there are new challenges waiting for you.

Try ”got home” routine

The ”got home” routine can help you to prioritize yourself. Many women think about loads of things to do before they think about themselves. Have you ever came back home and didn’t even take your shoes off – you just went straight to the kitchen and started cooking because your partner will be home soon and you feel like you need to satisfy them before you? That needs to change. Take your time. Take your shoes off. Change your clothes into something comfortable. Take care of your hair, hell, take a shower if you need to. You’re important. PRIORITISE YOURSELF.

Start a journal

It helped me a lot to write about my feelings and write down my thoughts. I do it in the morning, for about five minutes and then reflect on it in the evening. It made me realise that some of my problems aren’t even problems. It was just my mind trying to bring me down. It can help you to track your progress to self-love and body positivity. It’s helpful with changing your thoughts and putting them on the right track. Try to buy a small journal at first and then you’ll see that a small one is not enough because you have so much to write down. And it’s awesome, keep going. You’re on the right track to self-love, mindfulness, and acceptance!

Plus-size – why?

Plus-size – why?

We see it everywhere. In the adverts, billboards, clothing apps, TV, social media and even at your everyday bus stop. The list is never-ending. People have been so used to this word. But it never was thought through, was it? Plus-size is something that’s been around since late 20s. It was invented by a man, which doesn’t surprise me in the slightest. Why would a man want to categorize people by their size, right? Well, let me tell you how it all started.

The woman named Lena Bryant was widowed in early age of her life. She was a dressmaker, providing a good living for her and her son. One day she borrowed some money from her brother-in-law and went to the bank. The officer in the bank misspelled her name as Lane and that’s how “Lane Bryant” came to life. She rented a small place and started selling her clothing line. One day, a pregnant woman came to her shop asking for something “presentable but comfortable”. Lena created a dress with an elastic waistband and accordion-pleated skirt. This piece of clothing soon became known as “maternity dress” and was the best-selling piece in Bryant’s shop.

After Lena Bryant got married, her husband took over the shop and began to expand it. Soon, Albert would establish three types of women figures and made clothing to fit each one (I have so many comments about only 3 types of figures but I will leave it until the end of this post). Maternity clothing quickly was shadowed by “plus-size” clothing. And the phrase is used to this day.

Now, I’m grateful for Lena Bryant Malsin (and her husband David Bryant) to start a clothing line where bigger women are appreciated and look beautiful in their clothes (functioning to this day) but I have just one question – why? There’s so much wrong in calling the clothing for bigger women “plus-size”. Do you agree? Well, let’s review a little bit.

First things first, there’s a “plus-size”. Okay. Why isn’t there “micro-size” too then? If we’re so easy to categorise people by their weight, then sizes from 4 to 8 should be called “micro-sizes”, shouldn’t they? Why did we call people that have more pounds here and there “plus-size” when skinny people are JUST skinny people? There’s no answer to that but I think it’s very wrong. It’s not fair towards bigger people. Some even may find it offensive. Some may take it as a huge attack towards them. There’s something in the word “plus-size” that makes me want to yell. I don’t know what it is. Maybe it’s just because I find it so hugely inappropriate.

Can we also talk about that all “plus-size” models aren’t really what the name says? They’re always have big booties or bigger thighs, or even bigger boobs, interfering with their body measurements but usually they have flat bellies and no double chin or whatsoever. How’s that plus-size and who said it’s okay to quietly shame women who have those things by calling a supermodel “plus-size” when they’re actually look healthy and normal? We DO care, you know? It’s not fair towards us – that’s the message to every fashion designer ever. Maybe try to use some real big women instead. Women that happen to know what “big” means and women that actually cherish their bodies the way they are – with floppy bellies, saggy boobs and cellulite. Women that care about being true to the world.

I strongly believe that calling ourselves “plus-size” isn’t the right thing to do either. It’s complete opposite – we are hiding behind the word, trying to avoid calling ourselves “fat”. And I know it, I used to do it a lot. But I think, looking at all of those models and calling ourselves the same way they are called is absolutely devastating for our mental health. We see advert with so called “plus-size” and then we look at ourselves and discover that we’re look nowhere near the way the model looks. And it brings us down. I don’t know about you but I’d rather call myself “fat” and be happy than call myself “plus-size” and get disappointed when I don’t live up to their expectations. It messes with out mental health.

I want to raise awareness about how bigger clothes are more expensive. If you’re a bigger woman, you probably know that buying cute clothes is always more expensive for you than your skinny friends. You can buy the same shirt, in the same shop but it will be double the price. Why is that? Well, sellers say that it’s because there’s more fabric used to make it. Well I say – screw you! That’s not because you use more fabric to sew it. Size 2 is bigger than size 0 and size 6 is bigger than 4 and they still cost the same. It’s just the way for companies to shame bigger people because they don’t look like models. They might as well put a tag on our clothes saying “you are different than other people so we will charge you more for it”.

I want you to take a minute right now and think – did it ever hurt you when you’ve heard the word “plus-size”? Does it hurt you right now? How do you feel about it? These days, we have so many great shops for people that are bigger but I wish that they won’t call it “plus-size”. How does simply “fashion for all” sounds like to you? I believe that every size is just a size. Whether it’s a 6 or 16. We are all equally beautiful and we deserve to be treated equally too.

Here is the video of Ashley Graham talking about “plus-size” – I want you to watch it. I want you to see yourself differently and I want you to see that no matter what your size is – you’re beautiful. You are writing your own beauty.

Body Positive Babes That Need Your Attention

Body Positive Babes That Need Your Attention

If you are the person who reads my blog regularly, you must know how being body positive is important to me. I talk about it a lot on my Instagram, I love sharing my opinions about it and I wrote a couple of posts on how to be body positive. I think many people associate body positivity with plus size people but body positivity is something that applies to everyone.

We all have something that we don’t necessarily like about ourselves. You maybe were born with something that you don’t like about yourself. Maybe you’ve been in the accident and your body changed. Or maybe you are trying to hide your scars because you think they’re ugly. I have to admit that I hate my body sometimes too. But I blame it on the image that society and Internet painted in my brain; an image I sometimes can’t forget. But there are people who inspire me and make me believe that there is nothing wrong with me and I shouldn’t listen to what other people say.

  1. Megan Jayne Crabbe

This is my favourite person in the entire universe and if I am saying that – I mean it with every piece of my heart! You may know her as @bodyposipanda on Instagram. She’s one of the most positive people I know. Her posts are always so inspiring and I love her videos where she just embraces her body and dance away with such a great attitude. I have been following her on my personal account for about two years now and she helped me throughout so many tough times. She is definitely worth to check out and has a #1 spot on my list.

2. Stephanie Yeboah

Another person whom I love and adore greatly. If body positivity was a person – Stephanie would be it. Just read the caption on the post above. It is so worth it. She’s been inspiring me to be myself for such a long time now and I am grateful for it. Although she probably will never know I exist I treat her like my friend because she’s been with me through the times when no one had my back. Follow Stephanie here.

3. Jules Von Hep

I really had to promote this man – Jules. He is the most hilarious and loveliest person I have ever discovered. Men are struggling with body positivity as well. No thanks to Love Island, men are facing certain standards when it comes to their bodies. There have been increasing body positivity amongst the men nowadays but we still have to show them that is it okay if they don’t have a six-pack or huge muscles. Jules is definitely promoting this mindset. I think he’s fabulous and I love him.

4. Em Ford

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At the time this picture was taken… I was the girl with an expensive skincare routine, who found out she had 3 rare health conditions, and nobody to turn to. The girl who felt trapped and too afraid to leave an abusive relationship, so cried herself to sleep every night, covered it up, and pretended everything was okay. The girl who tried her best to keep up appearances and smile through Instagram posts and YouTube videos whilst she dropped to 99lbs, a size 00, and her body began shutting down. The girl who struggled to use her arms, who’s body sometimes didn’t work, who couldn’t remember words or do basic things on a daily basis, yet the doctors didn’t know why. The girl who’s friends barely recognised her. The girl who began to think that maybe she was as crazy as she was led to believe. The girl who didn’t know who she was anymore. The girl who shut herself off from the world. The girl who’s skin began to show the real truth of what she was going through. Or quite simply, the girl who has been through hell and back, to feel as confident and beautiful as she does today. Now if we’re really going to get into specifics, I can assure you that my skincare collection is worth a hell of a lot more than $1,437… but who am I to get in the way of a ‘good meme’ right? I’m just a girl… but I have a story, and my name is Em Ford. This is my story, and I’d love to read yours #imjustagirl. #redefinepretty #skinpositivity #acnepositivity #mypaleskinblog

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If you don’t know Em Ford, what are you doing?! She’s the girl that has been blogging since 2014 and she’s been very open about her acne. Her Instagram focuses on her makeup looks but also she is not afraid to show her skin (as on the picture above). She can be an inspiration for so many young girls that think makeup will solve the problem and they will love themselves again. Well, newsflash – you have to love your acne skin too to be fully happy with yourself. Em also have a YouTube Channel called My Pale Skin, where she focuses on makeup looks. You have to check her video called REDEFINE PRETTY.

5. Ash Soto

Ash likes to call herself “the girl with the world painted on her body”. You can find her @radiantbambi on Instagram. She has the condition called vitiligo which is a condition that makes your skin lose its pigment cells. She is proud of how her body looks and I am really in love with how confident she is! I refuse to believe she wasn’t self-conscious about it once but now – she is such an inspiration for so many people with or without the same condition. You definitely should follow her for the confidence you want to achieve.

Who is your inspiration? It doesn’t have to be a famous person – it can be a family member or a friend. What do you think about being body positive?