Self-love isn’t easy. We all sometimes have those days where every time we look at ourselves in the mirror we see nothing but our flaws. Creating a self-love routine can help you to see yourself in a different light.
What’s self-love, you may ask. Well, it’s an ability to appreciate your own worth. It’s focusing on your happiness and well-being. It’s the love for yourself and pride in being the way you are. It’s your mental health and awareness of thoughts you’re thinking. It’s self-respect that every person should have to their bodies.
Creating self-love can take days, months or even years but it doesn’t matter as long as you try. It took me a long time to actually mean some of the things I said to my fat reflection. I want to share with you some tips on how to start self-love routine, how to keep track of how you are feeling about yourself and make yourself happier, accepting person.
Tell yourself something nice every day.
”You look beautiful”. ”I like your t-shirt”. ”Your butt looks great”. ”You are worthy”. Those are only some of the phrases I tell myself every day. You can use anything positive that comes to your mind. As human beings, we’re afraid of saying things like that out loud because some people may think we’re narcissistic. Maybe I am. It’s alright to sometimes so try to find something positive about yourself every day until those little pieces will come together and you’ll see yourself as a beautiful person you truly are.
Touch your body with love
I know so many people that hate their bodies so much they sometimes hit it with anger, leaving bruises. It’s mostly stomach or thighs. It’s terrifying to think about how much negative thoughts they have in their mind. I can already tell you – it’s not the way to make it better. And it never will be. Instead, try to caress your body slowly, with love. Look at it, smile to it. Bond with it. Realize that your body is only yours and you have to love it first.
Smile to yourself in the mirror
I used to look at myself, at my reflection and point out everything that’s wrong with me. Every flaw that my body has. And I never smiled. It made me depressed because my thighs weren’t small and my belly was floppy and ugly. Right now, standing in front of the mirror and staring at my reflection I smile. Every time. I smile to my thighs, thanking them for being big and thick. I smile to my belly to let it know that I love it and there’s nothing wrong with it. Try to do the same. Be thoughtful of how your body looks like. Be happy that your body is the way that no one else’s body is.
Create skincare/self-care routine
Usually, when I wake up I drink a glass of water, dress up and proceed with my skincare routine. I wash my face, put oils and eye cream on and then put some moisturizer on. Somehow that simple act makes me more confident. It makes me feel fresh and fearless. If you don’t have the time for skincare routine in the morning, don’t worry – you can do it in the evening. Instead of skincare routine when you wake up, you could try some 5-minute meditation or read a small part of a book. Just a something to remind you that it’s a new day and there are new challenges waiting for you.
Try ”got home” routine
The ”got home” routine can help you to prioritize yourself. Many women think about loads of things to do before they think about themselves. Have you ever came back home and didn’t even take your shoes off – you just went straight to the kitchen and started cooking because your partner will be home soon and you feel like you need to satisfy them before you? That needs to change. Take your time. Take your shoes off. Change your clothes into something comfortable. Take care of your hair, hell, take a shower if you need to. You’re important. PRIORITISE YOURSELF.
Start a journal
It helped me a lot to write about my feelings and write down my thoughts. I do it in the morning, for about five minutes and then reflect on it in the evening. It made me realise that some of my problems aren’t even problems. It was just my mind trying to bring me down. It can help you to track your progress to self-love and body positivity. It’s helpful with changing your thoughts and putting them on the right track. Try to buy a small journal at first and then you’ll see that a small one is not enough because you have so much to write down. And it’s awesome, keep going. You’re on the right track to self-love, mindfulness, and acceptance!