Let’s be honest – no one in the world is a stress-free person. There’s always something that turns us into a little ball of anxiety and stress. Whether it is your job, family or just life in general, I know it is not easy to cope with it. I’ve been a stress person since I started secondary school. All the exams, pop quizzes, people not being nice and teachers calling you to the board to solve a problem – all of this was just way too much for me. I never was the brightest person in the world and at school there were topics that I didn’t like or didn’t entirely understood. My Achilles heel was Maths. I used to get so stressed to walk into the maths classroom that my whole body was just shaking.
My teacher used to call me to the board at least three times during lesson, even though she knew I didn’t understand – and that’s what stressed me out the most. I would just stand there, not knowing how to start. I could feel the eyes of people in the classroom on my back. No fun.
I have grown to accept that some things aren’t the way we want them to be. There will always be something that stresses us out, makes us uncomfortable and panicky. I know that I still have some things that make me unbearably stressed out to the point I don’t want to handle them. But there are things we can do to help us to cope with stressful situations.
Connect with people
Try to talk to other people and vent about problems. Make sure the person you’re talking to is a trusted person that understand you as a human being and know that your stress is no joke (believe me, there are people who don’t understand why we stress about various things). It is a good thing to just lay some of your problems and thoughts onto another person. It can clear your head and you get support. It is my number one when it comes to managing my stress. Having someone who will listen and take a part of the burden off of me, maybe even give me an advice.
Take some “me” time seriously
I know some of you probably have kids or pets that need attention almost 24/7 but “me” time is needed for all of us. Try to get one or two days where you can relax and focus on yourself. Give yourself a spa day, paint nails, drink some wine – anything that will help you to cut the stress off, even if it is just a little bit. I personally like to bullet journal or doodle (even if I am not the best at it). It gives me a little time to focus on something else than my worries. “Me” time is seriously neglected sometimes and that’s why we need to start taking it seriously and make time for ourselves.
Go out with your friends
This is the complete opposite of “me” time as some people prefer to surround themselves with people to get a little bit more comfortable and put the stress behind. Try to make plans to keep yourself busy and stop thinking about the problems for awhile. I find it hard to make plans every week of the month with my friends as we all have our jobs and personal lives but we try to meet up at least once a month. This is a good tip for people who have a bigger group of friends. Go out, have some fun. Forget about things that stress you out for time being. Get some happy juice injected into you!
Acknowledge what makes you stressed out
This is an important thing to do. At the beginning of the post I talked about me during Maths classes and how much it stressed me out to be called out to the board. Well, after some time I knew it was inevitable thing that is going to happen every day so I made sure I knew how to prepare myself for it. Acknowledging and getting to know things that stress you out is as important as breathing. By realising what stresses us out the most and letting that information inside is going to help you to manage the stress. Try to sit down, make a list of things that makes you nervous and anxious. Read them. Get to know them. And after some time you will see that you will avoid most of things on your list, some of them you will be prepared for and you’ll know how to manage it.
Some of you probably don’t know but breathing exercises can help you calm and make you stay focused on what’s important. Try to be mindful about it. Make get an app or simply Google some breathing exercises. Sit down and try. You never know, maybe it is something that will help you the most? I personally use the app called Senseful – it is a meditation and relaxation app that helps me when I get too over my head with everything. I use it at least three times a week! It’s a free app, has a lot to offer – meditation, breathing exercises and even a little quick game called “meditation game” where you are a little orb of light and you have to follow the instructions on the screen.
What makes you stressed out the most? How do you cope with stress?