We live in a world where people can be cruel. So many of us at least once in their life heard “you’re so skinny, you should eat more” or “you’re fat, you probably should consider a diet”. We are misunderstood by our loved ones and friends. We always thought there was something wrong with us and that we have to change for them to love us. We didn’t get the support we needed from them. Unfortunately, it made this world bitter and some of us aren’t here anymore.
Some people think that I am being narcissistic when I compliment myself – they don’t understand that by doing that simple thing once or twice a day, I LEARN how to love myself and my body. It helps me to get rid of bad thoughts. It helps me strengthen my character because as long as I love myself, other people’s opinion shouldn’t matter. So why being body positive so important and how does it affect all of us?
Let’s start by discovering what exactly is body positivity? For many people, it means many different things. We all have our views and opinions about it. There are also different parts of the body-positive community. The most basic, dictionary explanation says:
Body positivity is the idea that people should feel happy with and proud of their body, whatever shape or size it is; a movement advocating the view that people should not be ashamed of the appearance of their bodies, or any aspect of this, especially size.
This definition is perfect for me – in every aspect. I think that being proud of how you look is very essential, especially when so many people can tell you otherwise. Being able to love yourself is easier said than done and I know that for a fact. So I pinpointed a few things that explain why body positivity is so important and why should we practice it every day.
Your Body Is Your Soul’s Home
Just think about how important your whole body is – it keeps your organs in. It is like a protective layer that makes sure you are safe and nothing will happen to you. It holds your heart and lungs – the vital organs you cannot live without. It has your tummy where all of this delicious food you eat goes. It absorbs all the vitamins you take in to keep you healthy and strong. But most importantly – it holds your soul. Without a soul, you wouldn’t be the person you are today. It lives within you. It’s its home. Your soul cannot leave your body – it’s permanently there until you die. How can I not love my body if it is the house of one thing that makes me who I am?
Body positivity can be hard, especially when there are still so many people that don’t believe in it. Our mental health is something that should always be taken care of. In the world full of hate be a person who can see positive in negative. See your flaws, acknowledge them, love them. I know your mind probably is trying to bring you down but that’s because most of us have been fed with lies all our lives. We heard that big isn’t beautiful. We’ve heard that being more than size 10 is already too much. Our mental health suffered in many ways because people made us believe that size matter. It doesn’t. What matters is what kind of person you are inside and how you treat people around you.
Having the right mindset is the key to loving yourself. When we love ourselves, our mental health can improve so much. It is all about how we perceive ourselves, not how others see us. Seeing ourselves in a positive light can decrease depression and anxiety, making us happier people in general. I used to tell myself that I’ll never be enough but one day I woke up and realised I am. I might be big but my heart is so much bigger.
Losing Or Gaining Weight Won’t Necessarily Make You Love Your Body
I’ve heard it so many times before – “you’d be so much happier if you were skinnier”, “losing weight is necessary to love yourself”, “you cannot love your fat rolls. They’re disgusting”. Well, here I am, wearing my crop top, writing this blog post and waving my middle finger at everyone who said that to me. I used to want to lose weight so badly once. I thought that I can’t love myself if I will be big. My whole life I was being watched on how much I eat, what I eat and if I exercise enough. I even starved myself at one point in my life just to lose pounds. It wasn’t healthy, it wasn’t right. But I didn’t know that back then.
The first time I realised I am losing weight for other people but not for myself was the first time I said “no” to the voice inside my head that was making me do all of those horrible things. And it felt good. I finally realised that losing weight is making me more and more miserable instead of happy as people said. And I stopped. I stopped caring about how much I weight because I realise that it didn’t matter. Losing or gaining weight won’t necessarily make you happy and in love with your looks. Let’s be honest here – if you don’t like your body before losing – you’re already on the wrong track.
For me, the right attitude for that should be: “hey, I love my body but I want to improve it. I want to feel better and healthier. I want to live longer. My body is lovable no matter my size”.
We know, a long time ago, women fought for equal rights against angry men that couldn’t imagine a woman in the higher positions such as governors, Parliament members or even presidents. But I want to talk about a different form of equality. The one that supports all the sizes and shapes. For some people, it is hard to keep an open mind. They don’t believe that fat people are just people who have fat. They believe we are an entirely different species (or at least that’s what I’ve heard). There is no equality when it comes to different sizes. We were born into a world where being fat is wrong and inappropriate. Where people will look at you weirdly when you are tiny because of your metabolism. There is no right way in this world. Fat – wrong. Skinny – wrong. You just simply cannot please the crowd. I really would like for people to see us, plus-size babes, as an equal to all of the skinny gals. After all, we are only people and it is only right to treat everyone the same.
One of the most popular misconceptions about big bodies is that we don’t have any confidence in ourselves. WRONG. WRONG. WRONG. I know so many people with bigger sizes that are so confident in their skin they love to post their photos online. I am one of them. I love my body. I think my back rolls are cute and my thick thighs are so lovable. I want to believe that I am as pretty as any other human being. Being fat doesn’t make me ugly in instant. Just because I have some more fat doesn’t mean I am not beautiful and I will be shy like a mouse. Yes, some of us may not be the most confident people in the world but it is learnable – it doesn’t always come easy.
That’s why we need to support each other and boost our confidence by talking about it, showing it, being fans of one another. We have to help people who are not in this place yet by hyping them up, telling them how good they look, just showing them our support and love. It doesn’t take much to make a struggling person happy. One compliment can change their whole day.
To summarise, self-love isn’t easy. It’s a process – long and sometimes very tiring. We need help from one another to make it easier. There will be moments when you will doubt yourself and that’s okay. Doubt is part of the process. If you can go past that, nothing will be impossible for you. So put on your cute dress, make yourself a drink, stare at yourself in the mirror complementing every inch of your body and enjoy you it as much as you can!
What body positivity is for you? Do you agree with me? What do you do to boost your confidence up?
Let me know in the comments!